FEAR OF BEING JUDGED

FEAR OF BEING JUDGED
September 29, 2019 39 Comments LIFESTYLE Shadrack biwot

The fear of being judged is one of the biggest reasons why most people are afraid of speaking their mind. They are unable to tell their partners what they really feel, don’t contribute in class or at work

The fear of being judged

Most people have the fear of being judged because they want to be likable, because they want to fit in other people’s circle, because they don’t want to be seen as a failure. I feel the same way all the time. But I always remind myself that no one is perfect. Those that put a show of always being perfect just like me have flaws. Don’t expect them to paint out the challenges they have at work, the fights they have in their relationships, the meals they have have behind the scenes or the problems they face in their perfect and expensive trips. They’ll always give out what they want the world to see.

Humans will always judge. At times good, and at times bad. And however how much you try to fit in. Judgement is an ongoing process and it’ll catch up with you at some point. So instead of working hard to shape up to what others expect of you, use it to know your strength and limitations. If you know what you are good at, what people say won’t matter. It is a high time you stopped giving a damn.Fear of being judged portrays a bigger part of our own insecurities. When we fear being judged, we are literally judging ourselves. I bet most of us have had fights between their insecure self and their logical self.

You will always have your insecure self questioning your capabilities and comparing yourself to others. But, at never at any time give it the power to overpower your logic self. The trick to conquering it is not letting critics define your capabilities and be a reason for you not sharing your purpose. In the end you’ll realise that I tried is better than I wish!!

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  1. 1

    Rocky Stephen

    Thanks for the article

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    Anita Alig

    Great post, great advice, thank you. I’ve learned that as you get older you care less and less what other people think which is really nice!

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    Joanna

    In an ideal world, people wouldn’t judge. It is actually in the parent’s power of how they raise their children to create this ideal world, where growing up, people will know that everyone is different and that judging is a bad thing to do.

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      Shadrack biwot

      true…. I couldn’t agree more

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    Nate

    I can relate to this article. I used to have fear about what people thought of me. But when I grew older, I started to realize, their thoughts and judgement don’t really matter because they are living their life, and I’m living mines.

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    Jasmine Kais

    I agree. I tend to stay quiet because of this. I believe everyone is entitled to their opinions, but unfortunately not everyone thinks like that. Staying quiet is easier, and safer for me.

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    Madison Taylor

    So true, we all tend to judge each other, especially ourselves! What has been freeing for me as a Christian is fearing God’s judgment alone. Knowing He fully knows my errors yet fully loves me through what He did for me on the cross makes mankind’s judgments very small and insignificant.

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    Art & Home

    I think many of us have a fear of being judged, and no matter how much “I don’t care WHAT they think!” bravado we may display, there is still that underlying desire to be accepted.

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    Simon Starchevsky

    It is especially important to teach our children to focus on their own thoughts and not on how others judge them. Fantastic article, and great advice!

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    sheqoz.com

    Great post! We try to fit in to feel accepted, but it leaves us with an empty feeling instead. It is better to just be ourselves no matter the judgment. Besides, people will always have something to say. Thanks for sharing ❤

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    Gervin Khan

    These are helpful advice, me as I get older I am more careless for what other people says or think about, what I care more right now is to do my very best for myself and for my loved ones. I don’t care what other people says, they can judge me whatever they want.

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    Michael David Oyco

    Nice points raised. My take away here is that you’ll regret what you havent tried.

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    Adriana

    Ive learned to not allow this to affect me. I dont care what people think anymore lol

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    Celebrate Woman (@DiscoverSelf)

    A fear of being judged is a real fear. Though high self-esteem is a huge support of our thinking and decision-making, the outside factor is always out there. But it should not be a primary factor in building our life. Overcoming this fear or any other fear is part of our walking path in this life.

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    Steph S

    Some people will judge and not like me no matter what I do! I have learned to just be myself and not care as much! Makes it easier!

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    Aliya

    This is so true. More people need to be true to themselves and start showing their authentic selves.

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    Pink Frenzy/Öku Möku (@Pink_Frenzy)

    It’s true we want to be likable, but I feel after getting older and wiser it disappears at least for me it did x

    Laura
    https://pinkfrenzymissl.blogspot.com/

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    Alvin

    I agree, people should stop judging other people. Mu advice, just do your thing never mind what other people think as long as you are not hurting anyone.

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    TweenselMom (@TweenselMom)

    It’s but normal to feel fear of being judged, the problem is how well we take it.

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    aisasami

    I used to be liked to judged because that is how I could fit into society. But now, I don’t care anymore! I am my own self.

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    Nathan (@timelessmindzz)

    THis has been a major topic in the asian sub continent. People are very concerned with what parents and family members woudl think and do not go on to pursue what they like to do in their careers. I for one have changed this notion by just showing the middle finger to everyone !!! end of the day its your life. Live it on your terms and not to please any !@#$

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    Kristal

    You are so right people are so worried about getting judged that they tend to not even stay anything and that’s not OK.

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  22. 1

    Heaven

    This is a real topic! Great post.

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    Fatima D Torres

    The older I get, the more I realize there’s nothing you can do that WON’T make others judge you. People will judge you no matter what.

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    amayszingblogs

    I’ve been through this before I have lots of fear but I realize when you always to think of other people you can’t grow don’t mind them always be yourself and don’t let other people manipulates you life is sucks sometimes but you need to deal with it! Be yourself!

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    Kiwi

    This is a big deal to a lot of people. Sometimes you cant worry about others and worry about your own feelings.

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    Anastasia

    Definitely one of the big fears for most of us. I think it comes along with being a part of a society. It takes a big effort and inner work to truly not be dependant on what others (might) think.

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    Patricia M.

    It’s definitely the biggest fear for most people because as a human being we all want to belong to some sort of social group.

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    Serena Rogers

    Yes! Facing our fears it a must for personal growth and progression. Noone ever got anywhere by “fitting in” thanks for this thought provoking post.

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    Jessica A

    I still have a fear of being judged. It kills me so much that I even rain on someone else’a parade because I think they are doing something that is embarrassing or embarrassed me but it’s just them being themselves. Sad I know

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    Cat

    I was intrigued by the title. Being judged is always a scary feeling.

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    colossalumbrella

    being judged is always related to insecurity. Loved the post

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  32. 1

    Jackline

    Great advice and great post. I think the fear of being judged is why we are so stressed here in north America compared to many parts of the world.

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    www.mudpiefridays

    We all have that fear and only us can help ourselves, I suggest do meditations and yoga, it sounds funny but they really do help 🙂

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  34. 1

    ansh997x

    Beautiful post. I guess believing in yourself is the only way to overcome.

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    trijit28613

    Fear is a natural thing and you should do what your mind is saying.

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    Jona Shares

    Before I used to fear of being judge but as time goes by and as I mature, I learned to ignore that thoughts and live my life the way I wanted to be.

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    Adventures with Shelby

    I also struggle with this sometimes. I’m slowly learning to let go of that fear!

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    Elizabeth O

    This is such a greaat article.Many people are always taking into consideration what others may say and think. I think it’s wrong. Being yourself is the most important thing.

    Reply

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